Heartbreak and a sigh of relief

I thought about some time whether i would write a post for myself about this...and i thought why not, it's still an integral part of my wedding planning and ultimately a huge decision i made for myself going forwards

i dumped a bridesmaid...there i said it

after much drama...i decided i needed to end the friendship, there were a number of reasons that were leading up to it and ignored it and finally the straw that broke the camel's back came a few weeks ago...and i just couldn't be a pretend friend...i mean what kinda person would i be if i kept on being fake and let her think i trust her when inside i'm thinking something else...so i pulled the plug and i'm a little sad to say that i don't regret it at all...

it's unfortunate we couldn't be better friends, but such is the way of life...i had to be true to myself, whether i am misguided or not it's a decision i made for myself and there won't be any looking back...someone once said to me "jenny, you're not hurting for friends." and that person is right...

with that said, i wish my former bridesmaid the best and happiness in her upcoming marriage.

flowers and bridesmaids update

i seriously wished i some awesome stuff to report, or proclaim i checked off a million things on my ever growing wedding list...but alas, i do not haha...not only are we still florist-less, i think i discovered even MORE things i'm supposed to get done...like say oh i don't know, secure an officiant? it's not too late to find one now right?

after much pondering, i've decided against the green flowers for my bridesmaids, the reasoning behind this is 2 fold, 1) chris hates green flowers, he thinks they look unnatural (he's weird yes i know) and 2) i think it will save me stress and headache on deciding what flowers they will include if i just simple said to the florist, what my bouquet looks like, cept the smaller sister version...this works for me everyone will match and everyone is happy with the choices...the centerpieces are a whole other animal...that has also evolved from the tree to something more low key like this:

my how has wedding planning evolved eh?

but i can very happily say that all my girls have been measured and the dresses are due for delivery in early october, which means there should be plenty of buffer time for alterations for the big day.

Sexy Bridesmaids

after chris and i decided that the gifts to our bridal attendants would be their day of attire...i gave up on the dream of having each girl pick their own style, as this would've been too complicated especially since they live all over the place...with that in mind, i knew i had to find a dress that was flattering to all. if you read my previous dress posts, you will know that the original dress i had in mind was GOD AWFUL and the color was even GOD AWFUL-ER, so we set out with a new dress and color in mind, the bari jay 505 dress in sapphire...bridesmaid M tried it on in color moss and it looked SMASHING! so no doubt in my head that the sapphire would look even AWESOMER!
check it out...

sexy aint she? - side view

front view

back view

my goal was to find something flattering and sassy and preferably in a mermaid shape... i think i accomplished that, what do you think? i can't wait till Nov!!

even better was, i was able to negotiate the dress down to something within my budget even though the price tag was above it, go to here comes the bridesmaid and tell em i sent you, eva has been a doll to work with thus far...although i think the price on the website might be even better if you don't need to work with anyone :)

A New One for the Ladies

hello everyone (well everyone that ever reads this thing)
after much deliberation...i've come up with a new more flattering dress for my wonderful wonderful bridesmaids... i present to you bari jay style 505
its the perfect silhouette, it has straps for those that are NOT comfortable wtih strapless, and it comes in a VERY pretty sapphire blue...its taffeta which would probably work very nicely with my wedding dress too!! what do ya'll think??

i wouldn't be able to use my connections at dessy, but i love the way this one looks...gotta get bridesmaid M to try this on for me asap so i can put an order in!

The HORROR!

so last night after work all of my bridesmaids located in the new york area convened at "here comes the bridesmaid" in midtown to try on THE dress...but unfortunately it looked AWFUL! the color i had in my head i wanted them to wear, AWFUL AGAIN! can this get any worse?
exhibit A, B and C
A. MOH rachel - Champagne, honestly it washed out every single one of my 5 girls! how is this even possible?
B. BM morgan - this silhouette fits the best universally, strapless mermaid, but gah the color i don't love even though it looks OK
C. BM helen - the dress i mentioned in below post, yea it was really cute on top but it would not be flattering on someone who is not a size 4 or smaller

and then we tried on this baby


its the dessy 2726 dress, great shape! price not too bad either and can probably get a better deal ordering directly from dessy...we may have a winner...

but now the dilemma is, i'll probably have to rethink the whole color scheme, the darker colors are more flattering and personally i love the way navy blue looks...

so what will my girls be wearing on my big day? we'll find out soon! :)

where have i been?

addicted to twilight, thats what happened!!!

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instead of wedding planning i've been reading up a storm, finished all four books within 7 days and i can declare now i've got a crush on edward cullen of epic proportions, it's like im reverting back to my teenage years.. how embarassing i can't believe i'm writing this here...

anyways...on the wedding planning front. momma tse pulled some strings and managed to me a deal on the bm dresses i've had my eye on..we have an appointment at here comes the bridesmaid tomorrow to try this sucker on to see how flattering or not flattering it is, so stay tuned for wedding planning goodness!

here's what we've been thinking:

its the dessy 2762 dress in champagne

cross your fingers! i hope we have a winner!

Roll Call

lets introduce to my bridesmaids shall we? without further ado, i present to you:

Maid of Honor Babycakes - we met in college, sorority sister but grew close from traveling together, this is us in paris...


Maid of Honor Roomie - roommates from our days at stony brook, the sister of my heart and someone i can talk to about ANYTHING, and i literally mean that - this was us on our way to cali on a trip that i like to believe changed all our lives forever :-)

bridesmaid babydoll - sorority sister and have grown ever closer as the years go bym- this is us on my 25th birthday celebration at medieval times


bridesmaid hopefully future sister in law - the only girl in the whole wide world who knows what i go through everyday with chris, the only one out there that truly understands what it means to date a capuozzo - this is us on my 25th birthday


bridesmaid Lil - suitemate from my days at stonybrook, you put up with me like no one else and will always tell me how it is, not to mention fellow met fan gf haha - this is us at a mets vs nationals game

bridesmaid future sister in law - the sister that i always wanted, i can't wait to be a capuozzo! this is us at her august 2008 wedding

Will you be my bridesmaid?

when it came to choosing my bridesmaids, it was fairly painless, i mean after i got over the fact that i will have SIX girls proceeding me down the aisle (honestly, i envisioned something more like 3...but everything happens for a reason right?) and that i couldn't just choose ONE maid of honor (MOH for short) i started brainstorming how i'd ask them...in the end i went to papyrus and picked up these babies
wrote to each of them how much they meant to me, how much more it would mean to me and how much of an honor it would be for me if they will stand with me on the most important day of my life...

for my two MOHs i also picked up this little nifty handbook from amazon.com:

(source: amazon.com)

for my 2 MOHs and 3 of my bridesmaids i was able to do this in person, but unfortunately for my final bridesmaid, i had to ask over the phone (will mail her card to her via snail mail) because she lives in las vegas and since chris and i probably won't be able to make it over to see her soon, i had to concede defeat and do her differently...

ideally i would've taken them ALL out to lunch/brunch or dinner and do them all together so they can bond, but since there are so many of them and logistics was turning out to be an impossibility...each bridesmaid was asked separately on their own day.